Me and My Shadow
Our Shadows, in a simple statement, are those aspects of ourselves that we don’t like or do not want to look at because they may scare us in some way. A shadow could be simple, like something we would like to change about ourselves but can’t seem to . It could be something as complex as a hidden part of our childhood that scares us so much we have disassociated from it, or feelings that we were taught not to have so when they arise they bring up harsh emotions that we direct inward. All of these aspects of ourselves, our shadows, we usually project back out onto the places, people, and situations in our lives.
Projection, in psychological terms, is something that we find unacceptable within ourselves that we project onto others. An example would be if I had anger or fear and I project that anger or fear upon you. A more in-depth example of that would be if you acted in a certain way that I do not, for instance if you stood up for yourself and put up a boundary and I got angry at you or fearful of you. (This does not include actual acts of harm. If someone harms you or is mean to you, feelings of anger or fear are fully valid.)
Boundaries are a really big trigger for many people. When someone lets us know that a behavior of ours is not acceptable any more, it can be quite alarming. At first we may feel defensive and angry because we are being challenged to look at an aspect of ourselves that might not be all that nice. At that moment we have a choice. Sometimes we are unaware of the choice because our response to the boundary could be so immediate we didn’t even know it happened. Yet there is an opportunity for a choice none the less.
We have a choice to either react in ways that are habitual and defensive, or we can take a moment, (maybe just a second, or possibly a day) and ask ourselves, "What is it I am feeling? Why am I so angry? Why am I so afraid? Am I really being threatened here or am I projecting my fear or anger on this person? Is the threat I feel to me and my life, or is it to a belief I have or view I hold of myself?"
Most times what is happening is that we are being challenged to look at a piece of ourselves that might not be in alignment with the way we see ourselves or the person we thought we were.
Right now the world is being challenged on a grand scale to look at our shadows. The world is being challenged to truly reevaluate who we are because there are many of us putting up stronger boundaries. On so many levels people are saying, "Stop, this is not okay!" And those of us who liked the way we were living have been projecting so much of our fear and anger back out in reply.
I want you to know this is happing in many different ways right now. We see it in the news with the issue of race relations all over the world - that is a big one that has found a time to take another step in the direction of placing a boundary that says this is not okay. And, at the same time, ripples move out from that, and many other boundaries are being set along with it. People are projecting fear and anger all over the place right now. Maybe you have noticed that people are reacting or acting a bit (or a lot) more on edge. You are not crazy! This is real. Am I, my being, my life, really being threatened, or are my beliefs and images of who I think I am being asked to be re-evaluated?
I really hope we all can take a moment to please stop and soften and choose love for ourselves and love for humanity.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this!
A little bit about me.
I have been practicing Energetic Medicine for over 20 years now. What that means is I help people find their way back to Freedom and Wellbeing through the use of many different tools such as Energetic Healing and repair of our many different energetic bodies, Belief System identification and restructuring as well as Psycho-Spiritual Ecology and Spiritual Direction.
I work with both individuals and groups. If you are interested in a personal session or setting up a group class/workshop, let me know.